I find it intriguing all the books, magazine articles and the enormous amount of literature and media about relationships. As men and women in our 21st century society, we make it too complicated and create this labyrinth of entanglement. So why can’t it be simple? I love you and you love me. We embrace, we kiss, take one another’s hand, smile, laugh and love.
A great relationship begins with two people who are willing to discard each of their complicated components. Life is pretty simple, find someone who commands your every thought and attention and love them. The challenge is how do we find someone who we are completely mesmerized with and who also is willing to love us in the same manner, or be ready for love and accept our love.
Love in itself is about giving yourself away, to forget about selfishness and to share the best of our own individual nature. I believe in all my writings you as the reader have a great idea of what I believe about love. At first, when we fall in love with someone, it is a choice and after awhile we become entranced, and it is no longer a choice if we truly love. You see, we can’t help ourselves from loving the other person, it becomes a part of our personal nature and we love and love. Some people call this obsession, of course it is obsession, what do they think real love is? We all want to find ourselves obsessed and to be the obsession of someone special.
I really do believe some people have a greater persona to love than others. Some individuals are very guarded, this idea of guarding one’s heart is so selfish. The only motive in guarding oneself is to protect oneself from hurt. The greatest lovers to ever grace this earth, always open themselves to all possibilities, hurt, pain and the possibility of misery are worth the real prize in finding and experiencing true love.
In our life’s adventure to find true love, we must sometimes forget the past, it does not matter. Only the promise of what this day holds and the vision of what we can conceive about our future is what makes a difference. The best place to start in our endeavor is to first love ourselves. Take inventory of every wonderful trait you possess, because everyone regardless who we are has this most magnificent person inside of ourselves. Some of us bottle up all our feelings, or perhaps have been trampled upon in the past and have settled for mediocrity rather than revealing the distinctive brilliance which lies within our souls. So without question, forget the past, forget about those have trampled upon you, also abandon every doubt you have a tendency to cling to, and decide to live with passion and faith. Inside of your heart there is great beauty, a radiance to be revealed, so sumptuous that others in life will be attracted to you. You see my friend, this is the place to start in your quest for real love, to love yourself.
Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who did not love themselves? How in the world would they be capable of loving you? And if you did not love yourself, how could you love them? It would not be fair, and without the balance of this parity of love, you have nothing!
So to find true love, be everything God created you to be. In fact, decide this day to release your real personality, your most charismatic self, and in doing so you’ll find peace and personal happiness that will lead you to and draw others to you who also are in love with themselves. Your life will be more magnificent than you have ever dreamed, and the special person you have been waiting to discover will find you.
