This past year, I wrote a blog post entitled ‘love’, and stated, “love elevates your life!” So upon pondering this thought wanted to share how love changes us, provides us with faith, anticipation, and provides a platform of optimism in our lives. I have been deeply in love before in my life, unfortunately the person of my desires was incapable to remain in love with me, and I learned some things. I believe that love is a choice, we have to decide to be in love with someone. The greatest moments in our lives is when we meet someone who causes our internal body chemistry to change and our dopamine levels rise and oxytocin flood our brains. Okay, that is a little too scientific to seem romantic! The greatest moment of our lives is when we meet someone whose charisma overtakes us and we cannot help to want to listen to every word, see every smile and experience the sparkle in the eyes of our hopeful lover. Hopefully, that sounds a little more idealistic and passionate.
Love causes us to become starry-eyed, amorous, and more tender-hearted. We idealize our love interest, we ignore their faults and get caught up in the state of infatuation. Infatuation is good to a point, however it does not last. Another state of love can cause us to lose ourselves and to become what our love interest wants and we surrender ourselves and in the process sacrifice our souls. Then there is the state of love, the best of all ‘unity within duality’, where we maintain our independence but yet are dependent upon our lover. Instead of forfeiting our souls, together with the one we love our lives are illuminated realizing through a balance of support and challenge we empower one another to live freely and become more. In this state, we allow our lover the freedom to grow, provide positive encouragement and support them in their quest to be the best person they can become. Likewise, we are also encouraged with the same enthusiasm to be who we want to be, and not only are we supported, we are challenged to grow and become more. Infatuation is about nothing but support, however it is in this state of unity with duality that our lover not only supports us, but challenges to be all we can be. We must maintain a balance; it is not a state of perpetual challenge beyond our means, a cause for resentment or our relationship will die.
Love elevates our lives because it is not only our one and only that we love, but our parents, children, other relatives, friends, co-workers and others we reach out to. We are able to affect change upon all those we touch by remaining positive, optimistic and provide a platform for them to realize their internal power to become more.
Love elevates our lives when we learn to forgive, to say we are sorry, please forgive me and to those who ask for the same, to be able to declare with all earnestness, you are forgiven. We must forgive to forge our relationships into a state of maturity. It is not like we will never disappoint or hurt the ones we love, because unfortunately we are human and we must choose to live and love on the same level as God Almighty.
Love elevates our lives when we decide upfront how to handle disagreements, how to fight fairly and engage in exchanges which will ultimately empower our relationships. Disempowerment is not a choice to be considered, and unfortunately in our society, too many people never address this important issue rather to put it off until a threshold of bitterness ensues and it is nearly too late. Real love is to grow by learning, studying and growing together with the acknowledgement love needs nurturing. Staying together is a choice based upon realizing a great relationship requires tending and work, but also realizing the end result is so worthwhile.
Love elevates your life because you are able to give the best of yourself to someone, to share who you are, who you want to become and you allow them to impact your life as they also equally are unafraid to reveal themselves. Love elevates your life by sharing on all levels physically, mentally, spiritually and you dissolve the worst of who you are in exchange for the positive in your lives and believing the best about one another.
Love elevates your life when you reveal your soul, and you are able to also experience the soul of the one you so most deeply care for, and in doing so experience true freedom.
Love elevates our lives, because the more we love, we discover the more love we are provided and become more capable to love more.
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